Parallel Planning - Dealing with Feelings

We realize that when students are not immediately accepted into their desired program, there may impacts on family, finances or self-esteem. A variety of emotions can follow and impact how someone proceeds to move forward.

Here are some tips to help you cope with the emotions you may be feeling right now:

  • Acknowledge and express your emotions. Negative emotions feel bad so people often try to avoid them. Bottling up or ignoring negative emotions tends to cause them to amplify instead of go away. Ask yourself how you are feeling and express this feeling by talking about it or journaling.
  • Give yourself permission to grieve. Other future plans may have been tied to this educational goal and timeline. Allow yourself time to grieve the loss of these future plans or come to grips with altering your plans.
  • Avoid dwelling on things you cannot change. Constantly thinking about not being accepted into the program prevents you from living in the present and moving forward.
  • Make time for fun. During times of stress or emotional difficulty people often neglect their own needs. Make sure you set aside time to engage in activities that you enjoy.
  • Exercise. It can help you release built up tension, feel happier, and clear your mind.
  • Get some needed R&R. Take some time to Rest & Relax to help reduce your stress level.
  • Reach out for support. Talking to other people can help you solve problems, feel connected, and ease your mind.

Take action! It is common to feel stuck or lost. Taking small steps in the right direction can help. To learn about services that can assist you currently, or in the future, please visit the Student Counselling Centre and Career Services homepages.

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